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I'll try my best to make the safest and best decisions >-< |
I honestly see nothing wrong with you meeting him and I think that your mother is being an ass because she won't even give him a chance. If you have been dating for two years then you certainly know him better than anyone else, I mean... Two years is a long time it isn't as if you have only been dating him for a few months. I can of course see why your mother wouldn't want you to meet him. She's your mother and she will worry about you. I think that you should try to sit down with her and see if you can convince her to allow him to come see you. To be honest you're eighteen, you are old enough to make your own decisions and to be smart about things. If my daughter told me she was dating someone online, I denied her having him over then she approached me and told me she was going to go there instead I'd rather him come to my home then my daughter leave to go to his. |
^ That's how I see it going to play out, my mom caving in and letting him come visit me...but even if she did... the extra wait will kill us both, but I can see us managing it, it'll just be tougher =/ |
I think that she would rather him come to your home than you go off to his. At least that way she can get to know him and she will see that he isn't a bad person. I'm not sure what you mean by extra weight, do you mean because she won't want to leave you two alone? Let her spend time with you two, it'll only make her get to know him better. |
no no I mean like his job can't give him the time off to let him visit me during the summers. He works with construction like so it's heavy lifting everyday and what not. Only down time is winter. We both really want to see each other, considering our time together we finally want to. But for safety it is the best route, it's just the most impatient route also. |
Well if he can't get the time off of work then what are you doing to do if you go down there during the Summer? Wait at his house for him to finish work? The Summer is the busiest part of the year for people who work in construction so... Now that I know that it doesn't make sense for you to go there during that time. xD Just be patient and have him come over during the Winter. It makes more sense. |
Cause I'd follow him to work -Cause I DO want to go there- I just find myself more productive there, even when he's working. I wanna make him lunch and visit him and all that mushy stuff. His boss might be nice enough to give him days off for him, but he works till 6 to 3 so after 3 we have all day almost. That's enough for me, most our day we'd be sitting there doing nothing but cuddle honestly. |
What?! You'd better not cuddle all day - he better take you out to a fancy dinner while you are there!
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Rofl! A date out I wouldn't mind, but it's not on my list of "NEED/WANT" I just want to spend time with him xD He doesn't like cooking so I want him to cook for me >D Bwahahhaa |
No way! I say - he better take you for a good time. You can sit at home any time - if you do go over there, where I wish you wouldn't just for a bit - I say he should go visit you. BUT! I say if you do... you had better get a fancy dinner!! *LOLZ!*
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Okay okay okay xD we'll do a Fancy dindin with the whole dressing up all fancy and fancy music and fancy food that has small portions. THAT FANCY SMALL PORTION FOOD xD |
Lol! Good! You better!
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I think you really need to take your personal safety into account. If you can, don't go alone. If you can't find someone to go with you then only meet him in public locations where, if you scream, someone can hear you.
Also, if I knew your mother a little bit better I could predict her reaction but I'm going to assume she's the super over protectively christian type. (in these cases, they usually are, in my experiences) If you want, don't tell her you are going. TELL SOMEONE YOU KNOW where you are going, but not your mother. This way, if you go missing, someone will know the general location but, still, you're mother can't deny you. When you get back home, and let's hope you do, and without any complications, sit your mother down and try to have a calm, civil, mature conversation with her. Explain to her that you are a young adult and it is time she let you make your own decisions. No matter what happens, good or bad, explain to her that you can both learn something from the experience. If you do make a mistake (please, try to refrain from sexual activities. I have heard too many stories about girls in your situation regretting what they do when they finally meet the guy) then just tell her it is your responsibility and you should have known better. If you were right, don't rub it in her face but just let her know that even though it is something to be considered highly dangerous, you were willing to take the risk and you are ok. Don't let this lead you to believe you are invincible or that nothing bad can ever happen to you because it CAN. Hopefully, this gets worked out and you are safe in the end. |
I don't think I can do that to my mother x.x I think not telling her will probably bring the worse >.< so I HAVE to tell her. The airport is public, but if it was to go wrong, he can easily play mr.nice until the car >.> but I know he isn't evil xD that's just an loophole to the public thingy. I mean I'll be in his turf xD |
Are you going to be staying in his house?
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