I think you really need to take your personal safety into account. If you can, don't go alone. If you can't find someone to go with you then only meet him in public locations where, if you scream, someone can hear you.
Also, if I knew your mother a little bit better I could predict her reaction but I'm going to assume she's the super over protectively christian type. (in these cases, they usually are, in my experiences) If you want, don't tell her you are going. TELL SOMEONE YOU KNOW where you are going, but not your mother. This way, if you go missing, someone will know the general location but, still, you're mother can't deny you.
When you get back home, and let's hope you do, and without any complications, sit your mother down and try to have a calm, civil, mature conversation with her. Explain to her that you are a young adult and it is time she let you make your own decisions. No matter what happens, good or bad, explain to her that you can both learn something from the experience. If you do make a mistake (please, try to refrain from sexual activities. I have heard too many stories about girls in your situation regretting what they do when they finally meet the guy) then just tell her it is your responsibility and you should have known better. If you were right, don't rub it in her face but just let her know that even though it is something to be considered highly dangerous, you were willing to take the risk and you are ok.
Don't let this lead you to believe you are invincible or that nothing bad can ever happen to you because it CAN. Hopefully, this gets worked out and you are safe in the end.
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