Borse.

Same. It’s why I have... one more than the max allowed number of alts, actually.

oh, lordy.

> ADHD
> underdiagnosed

I have ADHD. My son has it even worse than I do. My experience says the opposite is true: it's so overdiagnosed that people get used to seeing the label applied to people who are really just energetic and flighty and then they don't have a clue how to deal with the real deal. (ProTip: The normal things that motivate people don't work for ADHD!)

(Also, +1 neuroatypical NB hat *waves* I didn't know we had a club.)

it's underdiagnosed in AFAB people, afaik.

also, i was not aware you were NB.

Is that a rose in wilson's hair?

yeah, it is! specifically the Faded colouration. i also have either the red one or the crimson one.

Awe cute <3

grumpy bastard man wants his boss to know that he likes her and puts a rose in his hair in solidarity.

looks like a vintage portrait now

It's the "primarily inattentive" subtype that's underdiagnosed, because people with that subtype don't exhibit the more disruptive behaviors that cause parents to seek psychiatric help. (It just happens to be the case that it's also the more common subtype in AFAB individuals.)

As for being NB, I mean, I don't really talk about it much anymore, so it's not surprising you didn't know. It took me a few years to work through some issues, and it was kind of disruptive at that time. After I managed to settle into a good, positive understanding of myself and my identity, after I stopped being afraid and stopped resisting, the dysphoria eventually more or less went away.

I also kind of have it easy-mode. I'm AMAB, present as male, and for the most part take on traditionally-masculine roles in the household as breadwinner and caretaker. The idea of presenting as NB actually triggers MORE dysphoria, which... kinda sucks. My current state of zen required coming to terms with that paradox.

sucks that it gives you dysphoria, friend. :<

Autism is underdiagnosed in AFAB people, too. I was diagnosed with Inattentive-type ADHD as a kid of around 8 or so, and got an official Autism diagnosis back in 2017.

Also, AFAB, presents as female, but Enby, myself. Only real source of dysphoria is my chest, and that's more of an annoyance thing to me.

I mean, I did COME to this resolution. It sucks, but kind of just in an academic sense, something I'd like to be able to do, but just can't. Kinda like I'd like to be able to fly -- a nice dream, but not something that's really in the cards. That's why I call it a state of zen; this isn't even a case of "if I don't think about it, it won't bother me." It's a true state of acceptance and inner peace. I am who I am, and I don't have to prove that to anyone.

that's a mood. afab here, presenting as masc / nb online, have to present as feminine irl because i don't think my family will understand if i did manage to come out.

boobs are a pain in the ass.

*a pain in the chest

Booo. also, true.

I'm not exactly in a safe place to be able to come out fully. otherwise I would've by now.

^that's exactly what i was going to say, mdom!!

i'm cisgender, hetero female, but two people close to me are bi, and i know probably more than i realise who are everywhere on the rainbow with their gender or orientation. it's a big deal when you're uncomfortable with who you are and there's no one who understands. *hugs*

that's why communities, like this and the RP server in my sig, where people are made to feel welcome for who they are, are so very important.

i completely agree, Den :)

Mhhh. I remember the first part. You mentioned it several years ago.

Yeah, presentation and dysphoria can get really fucking weird.

I basically present as androgynous/masc as someone who’s DFAB and not queer possibly would, I think. Hair could be shorter, that would be nice. Was shoulder-length for a good many years; got it cut to just an inch or so down my neck a month back. Planning on cutting it even shorter at some point, but had to use my current style as a stepping stone just bc I haven’t had short hair in... a while.

Straight-legged jeans. I’m super fucking picky about my pants bc as mentioned elsewhere, whoops butt and thigh genetics. Also one of the reason I like wearing long coats even though they make me seem even shorter. Sports bra and sometimes another layer over that. And then baggy band t-shirt. Though as of late, I’ve come to appreciate plaid shirts, both as a shirt and a jacket.

Occasionally hoodie, sleeves and hood both up. ...actually, my sleeves are almost always rolled up. Subconsciously, that might also be a masc presentation thing hahaha.

So yeah, occasionally I grab an eyeliner pencil and mess around with eyebrows and whatever. But generally I don’t.

Today I walked past someone who... honestly I could not figure out their gender. We smiled at each other. Human interaction is weird.

Wow! I was wondering because of the way your avatar looks. :D ♥

They *are* cosplaying, though. -waggles eyebrow-

not sure how to take that, regrettably i'm a bit stupid in social interaction.

i just like wilson p higgsbury.

i like everyone's avis... they're all different! :)

It's nice to be able to express... whatever we want, really, with our avatars xD

i just like wilson p higgsbury. and deadpan looks.

yes, and yes!

beeps softly.

Anyone online?

Sort of.

i am though i am not as fast at replying as i could be

Define anyone lol

yep... i was watching a few episodes of some shows. one of my shows is back on for it's new season.... but i live in Pennsylvania, and there's no way i can watch Canadian Broadcasting Corporation on my FIOS. i mean, i'd LOVE to be able to watch CBC, CTV, and Space on my tv!

I'm playing party in my dorm / Trisphee / Pokemon Go / LINE

Omg PIMD. That brings back some memories

Yes someone who knows pimd

i suppose there is no faking your ip?

crying
my phone died
so no more PIMD

i'm sorry for your loss *presses f*