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So does my periods, my periods caused me to have endometriosis (which could lead to ovarion cancer)

Gosh Ginger. I'm so sorry that happened to you. I would have felt the same as you did. You probably had a panic attack on top of the issues with the tampon. I'm scared to wear the things. I also think they're incredibly uncomfortable so I don't wear them. The alternative isn't great but it is what it is. I have tons of issues with my period. Sometimes I don't get it for a year, sometimes I get it once a month, sometimes every few months. It's a pain in the ass.

my worst is twice in one month

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I know how tempting it can be to be mad at a person who ignores you when you are sick, but from what you typed, it seems that you made quite the effort to avoid people and hide it. You cannot be mad at him for that.

It would have been better to just tell him very quickly, "Hey, I'm sorry but I'm feeling kinda sick right now." and then run to the bathroom. You can explain to him fully what really happened when you come back.

And i also agree with the people at the party. If there was someone going off into a corner, avoiding everyone, I would think that SHE'S the bad girlfriend. It's more like YOU were afraid of making a fool of yourself because of the circumstances. It doesn't hurt to tell one person that you're sick, rather than assuming that they can read you mind. They can't. He can't.

When you're in trouble. Tell someone. Don't worry about ruining the party because of your ill feelings. You obviously made it -worse- by not telling and I'm speaking from experience.

In fact, If you had told him earlier, he could have drove you home and gone back to the party to enjoy himself. It always works on better to tell someone.

You cannot revert the damage at this point. Because you made the wrong choice to hide in the first place. Just hope that people forget and learn from it. I have been in a similar situation and did the SAME thing you did because I didn't want to "ruin it for them". Turns out people DO notice that you don't want to be here... but they NEVER think it's because you're in pain..... because you don't ever tell them.

Now about the actually period problems. I cannot relate ^^;;; I have regular periods for 3-4 days on schedule with mild cramping on the first 1-2 days. A blessing I guess |D

I alternate between tampons and napkins regularly and when going out for extended periods, I do both, taking out the tampon midway. I cannot wear a tampon for more than 4 hours... neither a napkin, no matter how absorbent ^^;;

Maybe try something similar to avoid in the future?

You don't need to apologize for being scared. You were scared, you didn't react in the best way possible. It's called adrenaline and embarrassment can be a heck of mindset. I stayed in my house and didn't step foot outside of it for nearly two years because of embarrassment.

You do yourself a terrible injustice if you apologize for your actions. Sure, you need to talk to your boyfriend and explain things and if he doesn't understand or offer any kind of support you need to let that one go. There's plenty of fish in the sea, I know it might not seem as such but you have to think about you not other people. This is something I struggled with too for a very long time. I still don't always put myself first but if you don't put yourself first, trust me when I tell you that people will walk all over you and you will always be as sad as you are now. That will never change.

Have some courage and love yourself. Explain yourself but don't apologize. You do know that people die from the whole toxic shock thing, right? Not to be dramatic, but would you apologize for dying?

Ginger, if you need to talk to someone, you can always feel free to pm me.

There's no need to apologize Ginger *hunggles Ginger* I would do the same thing if I had TSS.

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Birthday or not he was being a real jerk. He should have noticed that you were feeling unwell. And shouldn't have let his 'friends' carry on like that when you were obviously suffering. Guys like that get me so damn angry.

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Well if you told him then he has no excuse. Go kick him in the balls now so he can understand your pain. The asshole.....

Sometimes I just feel so grateful for my boyfriend. he seems to notice EVERYTHING

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That could be the issue. When you get closer, you tend to start to take the other for granted and appreciate the things they do and just being there a lot less....

Maybe you both do need to limit your contact a bit. Distance makes the heart grow fonder they say....

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That sounds like a good plan. Ask the basics to show concern and use also for an emergency.

I don't call my bf's phone at all XDD It costs WAAAAY too much. But we cam daily simple to see each other's faces and make sure the other is ok.

For me my period ruines alot of my life. Pinkie is anermic and her blood dosent clot very well. My periods last for a long long long time because my blood takes a long time to clot. The last one I just had lasted 2 months then left for 4 days and now has returned again. My boyfriend hates it and so do I. Yet the only way to stop it from being like that is surgery but then I will never have kids...its hard and I dont know what to do

Hm...I think it was very wrong of him to react in such a poor manner about the whole thing. With you suffering like that, he certainly should have at least shown some damn concern. He really needs to learn how to treat someone you care about. As for not being able to communicate for long periods of time without fighting...I think it's a sign that you guys need to work some things out. If you're serious about each other...just not talking isn't going to cut it for long. I live with my boyfriend, see him every day. I spend almost my entire day with him aside from school or work, and we've been together for three years. I love spending that time with him and our fights are minimal. If you fight so easily, you'll never be able to advance to the next level of a close relationship, as you won't be able to be around one another for long.

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I hope you sought medical attention as soon as humanly possible as Toxic Shock Syndrome is not something your body can easily overcome. It causes problems with the liver, lungs and kidneys - and it can be extremely deadly within two days.

In my personal opinion, I find that your boyfriend and the people y'all were hanging out with were rude. :/ You would have been showing obvious signs of illness with TSS. Someone - especially your boyfriend - should have noticed how ill you were.

You have nothing to apologize for. TSS can kill.

Also, be careful! It's possible for you to have TSS at least one more time within the coming months. Take extra precautions, and stop using tampons for awhile.

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You didn't ruin anything. Any person who tries to make you feel guilty for something you can't help that just happened at the wrong time, isn't a good friend.

Birthdays come and go, but if you feel you are seriously in danger that should be the most important thing on your (and your boyfriend's) minds.

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You're not pathetic, you're just human. This stuff happens.