Idiot Bullies
 

So basically me and my girlfriend see each other almost only at school. We don't see each other a lot but we make the most of when we do, which is like an hour a day if we're lucky. But these people at school won't stop coming up and saying stuff like "she's too good for you", "she's out of your league", "you guys shouldn't be dating", etc. She is amazing but I don't think I'm that bad either. I don't have a high self esteem but what I can tell from what other people think of me I'm a pretty cool person. I tell most of them off but it happens alot and I can't find a permanent solution. What do I do?

Well, it sounds like they are jealous, to be honest. As long as she wants to spend time with you who really cares what they think? It would be nice if they would stop after a while when it's clear that you will stay together, and it probably does get rather hard to have to listen to often. I'm sorry that I don't have any ideas for something permanent though :/

Sadly, there is no permanent solution. Bullies/petty people will always be around, your best bet it to just ignore them. If you give them your attention/reactions you're just reinforcing that when they do something they'll get attention. If you don't 'feed' them that attention they'll eventually find someone else who will and wander off.

I see you guys' points. I'll just try to ignore them, but usually when people bully me the way to get them to stop is by showing them I'm not afraid to fight back. But I shall give it a try!

Everyone here is right. You can simply ignore them or just smile and walk away. If you start yelling at them or anything you will just fuel them to come back at you again because you have given them a negative reaction.

These people obviously don't know what they're talking about. Fuck'em. ^^

Well I should probly just close this because we broke up...unless y'all wanna talk about...just stuff. o3o

I don't mind listening if you feel you need to vent. ^^

Well not really about venting because we both agreed it was for the best. Just talking about stuff. But on that subject, I still kinda love her, I just know it won't work out. It's all screwed up XP

That is usually how relationships are :/ Just give it time and it will be easier. ^^

Yeah. I don't wanna rush into things so I'm thinking I'll wait a month before accepting any dates or relationships or anything like that :P not that I'll get any

That is a good idea. ^^ they say you take how long you were with a person and cut it in half- that is how long it takes for you to get over them.

Well I was only with her for a month and a half so a little extra can't hurt :)

Sounds good then ^^

What I found that works is to beat them to the joke, just agree with them jokingly. And if they spread rumors just accept/decline them in a jokingly way. Just stay positive, that's how I'm surviving High School pretty much.
Things are hard to ignore, but if you just accept things as it is and just go with it with a positive attitude guided by positive choices, you'll find that your becoming stronger inside and people will see you as a happy go lucky fella.

Also here's something not to do.. DON'T IGNORE THEM! Yes weird hearing that right? Now the reason why you ask? Because you can't take a punch, bottling up will only have you snap one day. Ignoring only does so much, you don't tell them not to do something. A better solution is to fight with kindness. It's hard being mean to someone who is always nice right? Just think about it.

I survived high school by being violent, stand-offish and by verbally abusing the kids who thought they were cool but had absolutely no self esteem when they tried to verbally kick me around 8D -thumbs up-

This is a sore subject to me because of something that happened in my area. Don't ever stop talking to someone if you ever feel bullied.
And people will be nosy, your relationships are none of anyone's business, more so if they choose to be passive aggressive about it as it sounds like.

Just take care of yourself and remember that you are a good person with a value. Try not to let anyone take that away.

Don't worry Belial I can take a hit. I'll never do anything drastic like cut or suicide about it, it just annoys me. But it's all pretty much okay now. So you guys can talk to me on here if you want or drop me a visitor message, but everything's wrapped up ^^

I'm not sure of permanent Ideas,but maybe talk to the teachers or principle about these bullies I guess?

Are you still friends, at the very least? IDK if you broke up because of others or just b/c you weren't compatible, but... *shrugs* IDK. Nolite te bastardes carborundorum