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I want you to be safe as well so him visiting you first would be the best idea especially becuase your mother can control the situation a little bit. I understand how the wanting to meet your long distance significant other is. I traveled to Airi's the first time to be able to meet her and I ended up at staying at her parents house and things went well. So sometimes your lucky sometimes your not. But I must say him visiting you would be the best thing for a first visit. In my opinion.

Trust me I and many others of us trisphites understand that. However you should be in a place where you will be safer for a first visit.

May, I know that you love Richie and stuff but you have to consider the possible problems that could happen - what if you guys meet up, against your mum's wishes, and then you guys realise you don't feel the same way when you've actually spent time together?
The result would be that not only have you broken the relationship with your mum, but you no longer have the relationship with him either - where would you go?

That's the worst case scenario, but if you guys did meet up, I wouldn't want to sit on skype with everyone worrying about what's going on and where you are if it went sour. :<
We love you May, and I personally don't want to be thinking that you're struggling to find somewhere to live 'cause it all went pear-shaped.

And meeting people from online for the first time is scary. I did it a few weeks ago, and I honestly was jumpy and uncomfortable the whole time - I didn't know what my friend was going to be like in person, if they were going to be who they portrayed themselves to be.
It's easy to act. I'm not saying that Richie is, but be careful. Please <3

I'm glad you asked us and I'm glad you are thinking this through fully. That's all I ask really.

Just be safe. <3

what everyone else has said. do what makes you happy and safe in the LONG run

I honestly see nothing wrong with you meeting him and I think that your mother is being an ass because she won't even give him a chance. If you have been dating for two years then you certainly know him better than anyone else, I mean... Two years is a long time it isn't as if you have only been dating him for a few months.

I can of course see why your mother wouldn't want you to meet him. She's your mother and she will worry about you. I think that you should try to sit down with her and see if you can convince her to allow him to come see you. To be honest you're eighteen, you are old enough to make your own decisions and to be smart about things.

If my daughter told me she was dating someone online, I denied her having him over then she approached me and told me she was going to go there instead I'd rather him come to my home then my daughter leave to go to his.

I think that she would rather him come to your home than you go off to his. At least that way she can get to know him and she will see that he isn't a bad person. I'm not sure what you mean by extra weight, do you mean because she won't want to leave you two alone? Let her spend time with you two, it'll only make her get to know him better.

Well if he can't get the time off of work then what are you doing to do if you go down there during the Summer? Wait at his house for him to finish work? The Summer is the busiest part of the year for people who work in construction so... Now that I know that it doesn't make sense for you to go there during that time. xD

Just be patient and have him come over during the Winter. It makes more sense.

What?! You'd better not cuddle all day - he better take you out to a fancy dinner while you are there!