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I made this one little suggestion to this group I am in and the leader took it the wrong way and now she is PO'd at me. I tried to explain to her but in the end she wouldn't listen as if she wants me to not make any suggestion at all and obey her or it is the highway for good.
Why can't people understand I'm different and not the same, I tried to fallow the rules but in the end I break them before I can find out what I went wrong and try to fix it before it gets bigger.
I don't know what to do any suggestion from you guys?

I'm terrible at giving suggestions myself. every time i suggest someone or even try to console someone it turns out all wrong. It's come to the point where I just keep to myself.

What I would do in your situation is wait a while then send her an apology and once again that you didn't mean to offend her and that you're not good at stuff like this.

But its always best to let things cool down before trying anything else.. at least thats what I do.

All I can suggest in situations like this is to practice what you preach. Accept that she isn't the most understanding person in the world and do what you can to keep giving your suggestions in a way that doesn't make her feel threatened. For people like that, it's often best to let them assume they came to the idea themselves. Twist it so it seems like she endorsed it from the beginning and let her have her moment of glory. It's unfortunate that not everyone is willing to take the ideas that come their way and use them for the greater good of the group, but that's the way people are. Too many people make pride a part of it and refuse to consider an idea, regardless of validity, because they feel that it should be their way or none at all. That kind of person is a bulldozer and will do whatever they can to have the reins. Try to befriend her and let her know that, while you respect her opinions (whether you do or not), you feel that she would benefit from listening to your ideas. Let her know in a casual way that a great leader can evaluate criticism and utilize group input to the utmost, and you have faith in her ability to be a great leader.

Or keep going as you are, try to not get in her way, and hope it all ends well. Your call.

Good luck.