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Every once in a while, I tend to say or type the wrong thing. Or the thing I mean to say/type comes out sounding worse/meaner than it's intended or it gets taken the wrong way because I forget to add a cute winking emoji or add a "just kidding" comment.
And every once in a while, it seems to be exactly the thing to end a friendship. Not necessarily the comment alone, but the fact that afterword, I feel so awkward and uncomfortable over the fact that I upset the person that, even after apologizing, I can't bring myself to initiate further communications with them.

Anyone else do stupid things that end friendships? Just me?
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Don't mean to sound whiny or anything, btw, just kind of needed to clear my head some and get this minor issue out of me.

Yes I have done that a few times!! It is why I have so few friends these days o-o

I promise I'll never be awkward with you over your typing!!

So glad I'm not the only one!
I mean, if I ever type something and it comes off as rude, always feel free to clarify. I keep losing friends because they kind of jump the gun and get upset forst, clarify second. Not that it happens often of course, but it sucks.
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Also, I keep meaning to say this, you and Winter were so cute in your unicorn costumes!

I missed this picture :0 where is it posted I only saw the maze ones and punkin pictures

It is right here:
https://www.trisphee.com/forums/show...postcount=3164

Oh my goodness ^.^ cute

I tend to try and ask for clarification if I'm not sure. I have a hard enough time IRL with telling if someone is joking or not, and online, tone is missed.

I ama big user of smily faces to try and indicate my tone!

Me too I'm always lol jk ^.^ -.- :) :0 :/ on everything

I always forget to use smilies, which probably adds to the mis-interpretations...

I think the most important lesson that needs to be learned is that most people aren't so petty as to not (eventually) forgive you for a miscommunication like that. I know it's an anxiety issue on your part, so that's easier said than done, but meaningful friendships are typically pretty resilient things, and people will get over an accidental offense.

The main problem is that, even after things get solved or explained, I no longer know how to talk to them and they tend to not initialize communication, so the friendships just kind of dissolve.

Oh geeze. That's awful! It's like they don't listen or assume you're lying when you say you just want to be friends. I hope you actually do find better friends. It's not always easy.

I've had friendships end like that... and I've had friendships end because the other person just couldn't allow themselves to be wrong. but if things end like either way? Maybe it just wasn't meant to be. I have one friend whom I talk to on a nearly daily basis, and sometimes I have to ask them to explain what they said, or they'll have to go back and explain that they were joking, because of me getting confused or taking them seriously (One of the only reasons I dislike being Autistic: I can't detect sarcasm very well). And sometimes, I have to do the same for them, for the same reason. But we've managed to stick it out for over nine years, and we don't really have too many instances of needing clarification, unless it's something that the other person knows a lot more about and unconsciously gets technical on the other... that still happens fairly regularly, but we each use it as an opportunity to learn something new, so there's that, at least.